Are You a People Pleaser Quiz

This quiz will help you identify your specific people-pleasing patterns and provide personalized strategies to break free from "Good Girl" conditioning.

Answer honestly based on your typical behavior, not what you think you "should" do.

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When someone asks for your help, you usually: *

Say yes immediately, even if you're already overwhelmed

Consider if you have the capacity before responding

Try to find a compromise that works for both of you

When you have a different opinion in a group, you tend to: *

Keep it to yourself to avoid potential conflict

Share it confidently, regardless of how others might respondOption 2

Soften your words with phrases like "I might be wrong, but..."

When making decisions, you primarily consider: *

What will please others or avoid disappointing them

What aligns with your own values and needs

A balance of everyone's needs, including your own

How often do you apologise in a typical day? *

Frequently, even for things that aren't my fault

Only when I've genuinely made a mistake

Whenever there's tension or discomfort

When you need rest or alone time, you: *

Rarely take it because others' needs come first

Schedule it regularly and protect this time

Only take it when you're completely exhausted

When someone is upset with you, you feel: *

Devastated and immediately try to fix the situation

Concerned but can separate their feelings from your worth

Anxious until the relationship feels repaired

How comfortable are you saying "no" without explanation? *

Very uncomfortable - I always explain myself

Completely comfortable - my no is enough

I can do it but feel guilty afterward

When receiving criticism, you typically: *

Take it deeply personally and try to change immediately

Consider it objectively and decide if it's valid for you

Appear receptive but privately feel hurt

How often do you do things you don't want to do to keep others happy? *

Very frequently

Rarely - I prioritise my own preferences

Occasionally - in important relationships

When asked about your preferences (like where to eat), you usually: *

Defer to what others want

State your preference clearly

Say "I don't mind" even when you do have a preference

How often do you feel resentful about helping others? *

Often - I frequently feel taken advantage of

Rarely - I only help when I genuinely want to

Only when I'm already overwhelmed

In conflict situations, you tend to: *

Accommodate others to restore peace quickly

Stand your ground when something matters to you

Avoid the conflict entirely if possible